One of the things we do to ourselves all the time is confuse FEELINGS with FACTS. They’re not the same thing. Facts can CAUSE you to FEEL certain ways — but your feelings do not BECOME facts, they’re still just feelings – ABOUT facts.
How many arguments have you had where the other person (or you) were insisting something was a fact (why the fuck can’t the other person SEE that, fer Chrissakes!) when, really, it was pure FEELING — and nothing but that was being pushed?